Birthdays to celebrate for those living and departed as we begin our final goodbyes to someone whose life ended much too soon.
I’m glad today is here because we will be surrounded by friends and family, even though our reunion is focused on a solemn occasion. So I’m looking for a reason to find jubilation in sadness, to find comfort in pain and to find reason where perhaps there is none.
I’ve been accused of stirring up emotions in people through my writing and today will be no different.
In the background of all of our events today, I have my wife remembering her mother who would have been celebrating her sixty-plus birthday.
July 12th was also one of my Aunt Yiya’s favorite days of the year. It was one week shy of her own birthday and it was the date where she met her daughter for the first time. So, within the confines of sadness and the unfortunate circumstances of destiny’s uncontrollable calendar, a place where hello and goodbye meet, we have to find a reason for our events of late.
Today we embrace every aspect of our humanity as we celebrate both life and death. Perhaps it seems wrong to use the word celebrate partnered with death, but in saying goodbye to someone you love, they become etched in time forever. Memories, moments and words once spoken will take deeper meaning. Their physical death is temporary because they embark on a new life of sorts in the world of our remembrance.
As I said before, birthdays to celebrate for those living and departed as we begin our final goodbyes to someone whose life ended much too soon.
It is an interesting day, it is a sad day and it is a birthday.
In the end, it will also be a happy day.