Weddings are stressful.
Getting married is easy, putting together the big day is akin to planning the Oscar telecast.
Brides become executive producers of their event and sometimes they have to make unpopular choices and decisions.
Choosing what people will wear, who will attend, what needs to be done, how much it will cost and counting how many days until the big day are nerve wracking options for someone who is trying to deal with the realities of daily life.
Additional stresses and family drama is never needed. Inevitably, it is usually the first in attendance and the only member of the wedding who shows up without receiving an invite.
I am going to share a secret that will eliminate all unscripted tears, all unexpected hurt feelings and all uninvited brouhaha to the party – it is all about the bride and groom.
It is their day. It is their moment. It is a once-in-a-lifetime event (hopefully) that needs not be muddied by challenges that can be addressed at a later time.
For those who feel that their voice must be heard, I remind you that when actors go political or express their personal views during acceptance speeches, they are usually booed off the stage or the rude, interrupting music is played.
If you crave boos and music, do it elsewhere but leave the bride and groom alone.
If you feel the need to disrupt someone’s wedding day, don’t.
If you absolutely must be a source of disrespect, then don’t show up – your absence will really show everyone how disgruntled you are and your message will be made loud and clear – you prefer to be referred to as a location south of one’s lower back region.
As we scan the seats looking for you, we will be reminded that perhaps some members of the wedding are best when they are not heard or seen.